Five lies we’re told about our 20s
From our parents to pop culture (we’re looking at you Friends), when you’re a teenager, your 20s are looked on with rose-tinted glasses. We’ve been led to believe that this is the time where we get our shit sorted and know what we want to do with the rest of our lives, but that isn’t the case at all; nor does it have to be. It’s time we stop believing these lies about our 20s.
You need a plan to be successful
You might be one of these people or you might know one of these people. There’s nothing wrong with having a plan – having one can help you a lot. But it’s not necessarily a pre-requisite to success. Sometimes the most carefully curated plans can go awry, and the least expected routes are the ones you end up going down. We’re not saying to throw away all your plans in your 20s, just be flexible and prepare for the fact that things might change.
Your 20s is a throwaway period
Off the back of the last point, there’s no reason you should throw away your 20s like they don’t matter. You don’t have to be rich and successful right away, but your 20s are a time where you lay a solid basis for things to come. There’s nothing wrong with deffering uni if you’re trying to figure out what you want to do, but ignoring your future and acting like an 18-year-old into your late 20s won’t be of any help to you.
You need to graduate/find someone/settle down by x date
There’s no timeline, so go at your own pace. It doesn’t matter if you take on a third uni degree and won’t graduate until you’re 26, and you most definitely shouldn’t deem yourself a failure in the world of relationships if you’re single when you thought you’d be settling down. When it comes to your timeline, the worst thing you can do is compare yourself to others.
You need to land a full-time gig straight out of uni
This one really comes down to personal preference, but you definitely don’t need a job straight away. Particularly if you’re just taking whatever job you can get, knowing you won’t really enjoy it. Take some time to look around, see what you really want to do and if that job is a step towards it, that’s fine too. But give yourself a break after uni – you’ll need it if you want to avoid a burnout.
You’ll finally feel like an adult
This is only slightly true. Maybe you feel like an adultier adult than you did when you were fresh out of high school, but being in your 20s definitely doesn’t give you that adult feeling you thought it would when you were young. Sure you have more responsibilities and bills (boo), but you’ll get confused when little kids refer to you as “The adult” or “The lady/man”. You’re 20s are all about figuring out who you are too, so maybe when that journey is complete you’ll finally feel like an adult (maybe).