The feels you'll understand if you're the only single friend

June 27, 2017
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You don’t know when it happened, but one day you were out partying with your single pals and the next day, they started to drop off like flies into cosy little relationships. All, except for you. While being single isn’t the worst and has its perks when you’re in your 20s, it can be easy to feel like you’re missing out when everyone is coupling up around you. If you’re the only single one in your group of friends, these are the feels you’ll know too well.

You have to work plans around their date nights

When you’re in a relationship, a few nights a week are often dedicated to hanging out on solo dates. When you’re single, this means you have to work around these nights with each of your friends to find a time when they’re not seeing their significant other. Trying to work around their schedule is one thing, but it’s also hard to go from seeing your friends a few times a week to only once a week because their time is being taken up by rship commitments.

You are constantly the third, fifth and even seventh wheel

Any time it’s acceptable to bring a plus one to an event, you can safely bet that all the partners will be there. Sometimes hanging out one-on-one with a couple can be a lot of fun when you’re equally good friends with both of them. But the more couples that come along to an event, the more you'll feel like you're sticking out like a sore, single thumb. Even worse are the couples who think coupling up is acceptable in front of you, resulting in a PDA session en masse. Umm no thanks.

The pity in their voice when they say ‘You’ll find someone!’

We don’t need your pity, particularly when couples say it in a way that insinuates there’s clearly something wrong with being single. While you may feel blue about it sometimes, you can also feel confident in the fact that you’re independent and can do just fine on your own. Being single means you’ve proved you don’t need someone else to complete you or support you, which is more the reason to feel like it’s not something to be pitied. This is why we get pretty shitty when people in relationships use clichés like “You’ll find someone!” and “Plenty of fish in the sea!” Plsss stop.

They’re constantly trying to set you up

If your friends know of someone who they think you’d have dynamo chemistry with – sure, it might be worth considering. But if they’re just suggesting someone because the thing you both have in common is that you’re both single, that’s a hard pass. Random set-ups are awkward enough and we don’t want to have to deal with the aftermath of breaking things off with your boyfriend’s friend, only to see him all the time at parties. Not ideal.

But sometimes you do actually feel #blessed to be single

Although it sucks when your friends in relationships go MIA, you’re not always sitting there feeling sorry for yourself. You’ll have your moments of wishing you were in a relationship, but if you’re going to be single at any time in your life, now is a great time. You can go out on random dates, spontaneously flirt and hook up with strangers and pick up and leave (if you really want to) for an overseas adventure without anyone to worry about. 

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